To live in a new stage of marriage, we all need to let ourselves be changed by marriage. The reluctance to change denies the possibility of being happy and can lead us to very difficult and painful conflicts that could lead to separation.
Keeping the old behaviors that we had before we got married will not be healthy for a couple who has just married. It is recommended for the newlywed to change the words “I” to “us” and “mine” to “ours.”
Marriage is full of richness between the couple but sometimes it is difficult for us to take away the habit of using our time only for personal desires, or with “my” own friends.
Establishing a balance between marriage life and the outside personal world is a process which will last according to the desire to integrate with love to the new stage of marriage and the adaptability of each of us.
When things do not go as we hope in our marriages, there will always be a chance to seek marital help that exists in our parishes and if necessary, the use of professional marriage counselors.
The ups and downs in marriage are present very often but these give us the opportunity to grow and mature in love.
Adela Hernandez For more than 15 years, Hernandez has worked in the convalidation marriage program, working with unmarried couples who live together to receive a sacramental marriage. She also was an instructor in the Engaged Encounter program, RCIA program and has been host of talks for marriage enrichment. She was born into a family where marriage was for life, where if something was not working well in marriage, it was fixed, and the marriage was not thrown away. Her mission is to evangelize young couples, sharing her experiences of 42 years of marriage and the different ministries that she has participated, especially in the area of marriage. Adela is pictured here with her husband, David.