To live in a new stage of marriage, we all need to let ourselves be changed by marriage. The reluctance to change denies the possibility of being happy and can lead us to very difficult and painful conflicts that could lead to separation.
Keeping the old behaviors that we had before we got married will not be healthy for a couple who has just married. It is recommended for the newlywed to change the words “I” to “us” and “mine” to “ours.”
Marriage is full of richness between the couple but sometimes it is difficult for us to take away the habit of using our time only for personal desires, or with “my” own friends.
Establishing a balance between marriage life and the outside personal world is a process which will last according to the desire to integrate with love to the new stage of marriage and the adaptability of each of us.
When things do not go as we hope in our marriages, there will always be a chance to seek marital help that exists in our parishes and if necessary, the use of professional marriage counselors.
The ups and downs in marriage are present very often but these give us the opportunity to grow and mature in love.